What do you talk about?

Whether we admit it or not, gossip happens all the time. We’re all guilty of it. I’ve even heard people say  “ Now I’m only telling you this, so you can pray for them” as a means to spread gossip. 

It’s not often we take the time to think of the person being talked about…. Or really, if the information we are hearing is true. In the moment, truth isn’t the important thing, gossip is. The juicier the better, right?

In light of recent developments it’s come to my attention that I’ve been the topic of gossip with people. As gossip goes, there’s never a way of really knowing who said what. Where it started. And most importantly – why are people talking about me behind my back? Are we in grade 5 around the sandbox again? Shotgun tonka truck!

I caught myself a few times thinking “I wonder what kind of garbage this person has heard about me” At the end of the day, I take comfort knowing that those who love me, don’t listen to that filth; and would have the gonads to talk to me about “something they heard about me”. 

I challenge you to question the motives behind the next gossip you hear. Maybe even go as far as seek out the truth for yourself. (God forbid)

It could be a friend, an acquaintance, a neighbor, an ex girlfriend, a family member… you’ll never know! But the lesson I’ve come to appreciate is… WHO CARES?

Every evil has it’s fuel. People who speak ill of others have their own insecurity they are hiding behind. Sometimes people say things to boost themselves. Sometimes people say things to pass blame. Sometimes people say things when their feelings are hurt. And sometimes, people are just malicious and evil. (hey, there’s all kinds of people out there)

To the gossipers out there, I’m glad I could be a scapegoat for your feelings of inadequacy. You’re welcome. Maybe seeing the way I live my life bothers you, maybe you’re jealous, maybe you’re so miserable in your own life that you need to smack me down whatever way you can to make yourself feel better. Maybe you just don’t have anything better to talk about. Whatever your reason- Keep doing it, please.

Every time I hear another story about me, or a rumor run wild – it empowers me. It reminds me that only fickle minds discuss people, while great people lift each other up and encourage each other. It also reminds me that a true friend won’t make an opinion of me based on what they’ve heard from others…. And if they will, then those aren’t friends to begin with or the kind of people I want to mingle with.

So as McDonalds would say, BADA BAP BAP BAAAH, I’m Loving it.

This evening a good friend of mine introduced me to a scripture passage I had never come across before and it’s resonating with me big time so I’ll end with that.

But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days.  People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.

2 Timothy 3 1-5: